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When Jodi said the headphones cost a fortune, Mike was confused. The price tag was $350 expensive, but a fortune? Jodi speaks in superlatives, and superlatives don’t compute in Mike’s literal brain. Rory went off on two tangents before returning to his original point. As a systematic communicator, Carlos missed Rory’s conversational detour and was so lost he missed Rory’s point. What’s going on? What we see here is a failure to communicate due to seemingly incompatible communication styles. Research pertaining to communication style uncovers four different communication styles that are determined by two factors pace and people-orientation. Visionaries are fast-paced, people-oriented communicators. Achievers are fast-paced task-oriented communicators. Reflectives are slower-paced, task-oriented communicators. Likeables are slower-paced, people-oriented communicators. Each style has its own strengths and weaknesses. And like oil and vinegar, they don’t blend perfectly, but they do complement each other. Communication skill training is never complete without analyzing communication styles and learning how to communicate effectively with different personality tendencies. Here are some dos and don’ts to help you bridge the communication style gap. 1, Ask the question, what’s my communication style? Take a simple communication test to find out. Start your communication style development with yourself and your own conversational style. I offer a free communication style quiz on my website at: www.speakstrong.com. It’s also available in my book PowerPhrases! ..speakstrong../PowerPhrases!.html Don’t: assume everyone has the same style you do, or that your style is better than others. Why not? What seems normal to you may seem picky, illogical or undecipherable to someone else. Do: Know thyself. Get conscious of your own .munication style, .munication strengths, and .munication flaws. Why: The better you understand how you .municate, the more likely you will be to adapt to different .munication styles. 2. Invite the important people in your life to take the .munication style quiz. Once you understand your own style, enlist the interest of others. Don’t: imply they need to take the test remedially. Why not? Any implication there is something wrong with their style will create resistance. Do: let them know you’d like for them to take the test so you can better understand how they .municate. Why? It presents a benefit to them that is likely to interest them. PowerPhrase / What to say: I’m studying .munication styles because I’d like to improve my .munication skills. Would you take a quiz .munication style quiz to help me understand how you .municate? Poison Phrase / What not to say: – You need to take this test. 3. Initiate a conversation about conversations with people of other .munication styles. Don’t: continue a conversation that isn’t working when you need a conversation about how you .municate. Why not? If you are speaking different languages, speaking longer or louder won’t help. Do: take a step back and discuss how you can bridge the .munication barrier. Why? It’s like rebooting your .puter. It gives you a fresh start. PowerPhrase / What to say: We seem to be speaking different languages. I’d like to discuss our .munication styles and find ways for us to adapt to each other’s style. Poison Phrase / What not to say: – You’re not making sense. Tips for .municating with each of the four different .munication styles 4. When you talk to a Visionary, make it fun. Don’t: overload Visionaries with details and don’t expect them to meet your standards for detail. Why not? Their eyes glaze over from details and you lose them. You set themand yourselfup for failure when you expect them to embrace a high level of detail. Do: provide details on a need-to-know basis, and let them know why they need to know it. Why? Since they don’t love details for detail’s sake, they need to understand how the details fit into their big picture in order to tolerate them. PowerPhrase / What to say: Here’s what you need to know to make this happen. Poison Phrase / What not to say: – I’m telling you everything because if it isn’t perfect it isn’t right. (Now there’s a formula for overload!) 5. When you talk to an Achiever, make it fast. Don’t: share information they don’t need or initiate a personal discussion in a business conversation. Why not? They have little patience for anything off purpose. Do: provide information on a need-to-know basis. Why? That’s all they want to hear. PowerPhrase / What to say: I have two points to make and I need three minutes of your time. Number one Poison Phrase / What not to say: – Hi! Let me tell you about my weekend! 6. When you talk to a Reflective, make it logical and accurate. Don’t: approximate or go off on tangents. Why not? In a Reflective’s world, if it’s not exact, it’s not right. Reflectives expect conversations to go from A to B to C to D and are not good at following tangents. Do: be as logical, detailed and systematic as you can. When you estimate, let them know it’s an estimate. Before going on a tangent or changing the subject, warn you listener. Why? When you let them know you are estimating they won’t assume exactness. When you warn them of a tangent, they know to shift gears and are better able to follow your track. PowerPhrase / What to say: I estimate I’ll be there at 2:00. It could be fifteen minutes either side of 2:00. This point is off topic Poison Phrase / What not to say: – I’ll be there at 2:00. (When you are actually estimating.) 7. When you talk to a Likeable, make it personal. Don’t: just relay facts. Why not? Likeables will think something is wrong. Do: add small-talk, even if it’s only a few words. Why? Even a few personal words inspire and motivate Likeables. PowerPhrase / What to say: I missed you at the meeting. Here’s what you need to know. Poison Phrase / What not to say: – Here’s what you missed at the meeting. Analyzing .munication styles and learning how to interact with different .munication styles is a vital part of .munication skill training. Follow the tips in this article and you’ll be bridging the .munication gap in no time. Get Over Yourself, You Are Programmed A Certain Way And You Need To Get Over Yourself By: Sandy Z – We are programmed from birth to believe a certain way and be a certain way. We can get over ourselves by reprogramming ourselves. Tags: Get Over Yourself, You Need To Improve Don"��t You, So Get Over Yourself By: Sandy Z – Are you stuck in a rut? So many of us spend our lives stuck in the same rut. In order to get out of that rut you need to take control of your life physically, financially, and emotionally. 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